“You spot it, you got it.” It means we tend to project our insecurities onto others. We see in others what we fear about ourselves.
I often think of projections like this as something I need to get rid of. I should project as little onto others as possible, I tell myself.
There’s truth to that. I can do a lot of harm when I unconsciously project my pain onto others without reflecting on it or cleaning it up.
But my projections can be incredible teachers as well. They show me where my pain is. They reveal the parts of me that haven’t been resolved.
So for now, instead of running away from them, maybe the best thing I can do is to let my projections be, to witness them without judgment, and to really listen to all the lessons they have for me.
Only then, can I actually let go of them.