At the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is “self-actualization.” But more and more, growth for me is not really about meeting unmet needs or discovering more of myself. It’s about giving myself away, letting go of perceived “needs”, and serving a purpose beyond me.
Parenting has really hit me over the head with this. Every day is a sacrifice of my immediate wants and needs for someone else. Every day is a struggle with that little boy in me that wants it to be all about him.
But the same applies to change work too. So much of this work for me has been about having a big impact myself, being seen as impressive, feeling like the “good guy,” or self-actualizing.
What would it look like if I let go of all of this? How might my work change if I was entirely and solely devoted to building the world that best serves others?