To me, kind-ness, at its deepest level, is an orientation toward others where you treat them as if they were your kind.
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Judgment and comparison are poison. Literally, poison.
If gratitude for our own circumstances is the source from which joy and transformation sprout for us as individuals, then perhaps gratitude for the state of our society is the source from which transformation for us as a species emerges.
I always cringe a bit when anyone starts a sentence with “The truth is…”. As soon as I hear this, I can be almost certain I am about to hear the speaker’s own opinions or limited personal perspectives, passed off as some grand truth about the universe.
When I acknowledge that I am offended, I center my own pain. I acknowledge the fact that no healing will ever come unless I heal myself first. If I am offended, I have work to do.
In the past, too often I’ve either repressed my anger or projected it on to other people, blaming them and making them responsible for whatever I might be feeling.
Would the world perhaps be better, if we all agreed to stop labeling people into the categories of “good” and “bad” people?
I feel called to write a book, but how do I create room in my life for such a major endeavor?
How can I use my experience as a father not to lose my sense of self, as I’ve always feared would happen, but to become more myself than ever?
Life exists far beyond what we know here on Earth. And it is beautiful and will continue well after the last human and even Earth itself.
We must accept that the present moment, and how we show up in it, is largely outside of control, pre-destined by what came before it. And we must also accept that there is always a gap between reality and potential.
The only way to achieve a society where individuals are truly allowed to be seen for themselves is to finally fully acknowledge just how deeply our existing mental models and institutions fail in this regard.
Is it possible that the most effective way to bring about the respectful and caring behavior we so want is to tolerate behaviors that we find deeply intolerant and intolerable?
Let us first and foremost be open to possibility. Because the future we want and need is one that has not yet been fully imagined.
What depths of wisdom, peace, and purpose can I activate simply by becoming more aware of who I already am, understanding my core essence, and living it as deeply as I can every day?
Coexist! Is the best we can strive for? Is this really such an inspiring rally cry for progressives around the world? Is the best we can do simply to tolerate one another?
Young people, you have more power than you think. Please keep dreaming up a world that makes older generations afraid, nervous, and confused. Please keep dreaming up a world that most of us don’t believe is possible.
By simply being more willing and able to be honest with myself, to let myself be my own teacher, to absorb and embrace the truths that are already within me, but which are inconvenient – doorways are opening up left and right.
When you go slow, you go far.
In a solemn moment of honesty with yourself, do you feel that you are in right relationship with yourself, your family, your community, your planet, the universe? For me, there is no real goodness apart from our own honest answers to ourselves.
I will never resolve this sense of dread by accomplishing anything in the external world. I can only resolve it by reckoning within myself, by consciously rewriting the rules I’ve taken on unconsciously.
Perhaps sometimes the most productive thing we can do is to make chaos from order, to tear apart at the worn, outdated fabric of modern life, so that we might weave a new, more beautiful tapestry from the loose thread.
I am beginning to realize, trying to be original is the least original thing I can do. It is doing what nearly everyone does, tie themselves up in knots over me, me, me; obsess over how I can be revered, remembered, seen.
If we wanted, we could imagine the noblest good as expanding our “sphere of concern” to the widest, most far-reaching good we can conceive. We could choose to identify primarily not with ourselves as individuals, but rather as humanity itself, as life itself.
Where we most do not want to go is where we can most activate our highest selves and most contribute to those around us.