We instinctively find endings disappointing. To what extent is it because it’s always emotionally safer to criticize than to praise and adore?
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What do you do to maintain urgency, without giving into despair?
Humans are inextricably united with all other beings here on Earth. We are all natural. We are all nature.
It is unquestionable that the systems of power we live by now are unjust, corrupt, and must be changed. But the solution is to not get rid of power, to condemn anyone who has it.
What a relief to not have to pretend that I’m control anymore. What a relief to simply be who I am, in my beauty, in my joy, in my ugliness, in my stupidity, in my awkwardness.
When we identify ourselves, we so often focus almost exclusively on the most stable, unchanging aspects of ourselves. In any given moment, are these stable, often lifelong traits, what really define us?
We aren’t only human. Being flawed is not what defines us. What defines us is our ability to reflect on and refine ourselves.
To me, kind-ness, at its deepest level, is an orientation toward others where you treat them as if they were your kind.
Judgment and comparison are poison. Literally, poison.
If gratitude for our own circumstances is the source from which joy and transformation sprout for us as individuals, then perhaps gratitude for the state of our society is the source from which transformation for us as a species emerges.
I always cringe a bit when anyone starts a sentence with “The truth is…”. As soon as I hear this, I can be almost certain I am about to hear the speaker’s own opinions or limited personal perspectives, passed off as some grand truth about the universe.
When I acknowledge that I am offended, I center my own pain. I acknowledge the fact that no healing will ever come unless I heal myself first. If I am offended, I have work to do.
In the past, too often I’ve either repressed my anger or projected it on to other people, blaming them and making them responsible for whatever I might be feeling.
Would the world perhaps be better, if we all agreed to stop labeling people into the categories of “good” and “bad” people?
I feel called to write a book, but how do I create room in my life for such a major endeavor?
How can I use my experience as a father not to lose my sense of self, as I’ve always feared would happen, but to become more myself than ever?
Life exists far beyond what we know here on Earth. And it is beautiful and will continue well after the last human and even Earth itself.
We must accept that the present moment, and how we show up in it, is largely outside of control, pre-destined by what came before it. And we must also accept that there is always a gap between reality and potential.
The only way to achieve a society where individuals are truly allowed to be seen for themselves is to finally fully acknowledge just how deeply our existing mental models and institutions fail in this regard.
That night was the first time I truly came upon the little boy that lives inside me, that still carries all the insecurities and awkwardnesses of my childhood, that still has no idea how to operate in the world, that still finds a way to influence my thoughts and behaviors today without me realizing it.
Is it possible that the most effective way to bring about the respectful and caring behavior we so want is to tolerate behaviors that we find deeply intolerant and intolerable?
Let us first and foremost be open to possibility. Because the future we want and need is one that has not yet been fully imagined.
What depths of wisdom, peace, and purpose can I activate simply by becoming more aware of who I already am, understanding my core essence, and living it as deeply as I can every day?
Power. It was intoxicating and somehow deeply familiar, as if it had been waiting dormant inside of me.
The higher wisdom is in discerning what is needed for a given moment and being flexible enough to offer the moment what it needs, whether it be radical compassion, tough love, or better yet, both.